Comments on: Second Child Mommy Guilt

By: Salma

Salma — Wed, 20 Jul 2016 17:58:00 +0000

In reply to Catherine. You're right Catherine, when you take the time to do things for yourself, it does make you a better mom <3

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:51:37 +0000

In reply to Misty Spears. Thanks for sharing Misty! You sound like a great mom!

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:50:37 +0000

In reply to Amber. Thanks Amber.

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:50:06 +0000

In reply to Andrea @Mama in the City. Good advice Andrea :) I have to 'go with the flow' more.

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:49:37 +0000

In reply to Kristyl Clark. It really is a plus when the second one has a sibling!

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:49:02 +0000

In reply to Tennille. I can't even imagine Tennille, that must have been so difficult for you.

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:48:30 +0000

In reply to Lina Zussino. Thank you Lina.

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:48:12 +0000

In reply to Heather. I guess Mommy Guilt comes in many forms!

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:47:39 +0000

In reply to Brooke Takhar. We are hardest on ourselves!

By: Salma

Salma — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:47:22 +0000

In reply to Pamela. Thanks for the suggestions Pamela :)

By: Pamela

Pamela — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 07:37:22 +0000

My feelings of guilt crept up on me when my twins were turning one. I think it was enhanced by the comparisons I made between the mums in my neighbourhood who were high achieving and highly aspirational. (This wasn’t helped by some of the comments that were addressed to me.)

Salma did your children use soothers made from organically correct rubber from Brazil. What? They didn’t? Add that one to your list.

Of course my list looks similar to yours. What I decided was that I had to have goals that I wanted to meet and not worry about the rest. This helped.

EG.

* lots of hugs and kisses
* if possible ensure the children to get outside for an hour a day
* play a lot of world music and sing together

By: Brooke Takhar

Brooke Takhar — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 07:25:43 +0000

With just one girl I have working Mom guilt. It can eat me alive but I’m trying to keep it at bay. We are so hard on ourselves as Moms. I’m cutting more slack for myself in 2014. Less guilt = more positivity and better parenting in general. That’s the plan anyways…

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 05:37:26 +0000

It’s funny, I have the exact opposite mommy guilt that you have. I’ve got a 5 year old and a 9 month old and I get to spend lots of alone time with my baby, but hardly any with my older daughter as she’s in kindergarten and I often work in the afternoon when daddy’s home to save on childcare costs. I started doing mommy dates with my big girl to help make up for this and she loves them! She also gets to have occasional “sleep overs” in mommy’s bed when daddy’s working at night. Every little bit helps!

By: Lina Zussino

Lina Zussino — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 05:28:37 +0000

Yes we do the best we can that is the best way for our families so don’t have guilt. Only have if you know it’s wrong.. like yelling or doing something to hurt your child. It’s all work in progress and we are learning as we go. No one teaches us to be parents we do the best we can. Beautiful kids!

By: Tennille

Tennille — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 05:10:40 +0000

I had HELP syndrome at 34 weeks and had to have an emergency C-sect because my liver was conking out. Imagine the guilt over have a preemie just so I could get better……that took awhile to get over. I still have the guilt over not working on my sons printing enough or spending enough time with my second etc but try to limit it all and just be the best mama I can be.