Growing up, we never really had any relationships with our neighbours and I never really thought anything of it.
But once I got married and moved to Winnipeg, things changed. We bought and moved into a condo and we had some wonderful neighbours. After we moved in, they came and introduced themselves to us. Everyone was so friendly in the elevator. We got to know people’s names, borrowed milk and eggs and had playdates with our children. When we left Winnipeg, I wasn’t leaving behind neighbours, I was going to miss my friends.
So when we came to Vancouver and spent our first year in a condo building, I was sad to not make any connections with anyone and not have someone’s door to knock on when I needed to borrow a cup of sugar.
When we moved into a house five months ago, I hoped things would be different. We were moving into a family neighbourhood with a cul-de-sac where the kids could play, it was the perfect set-up to make friends with other families and children.
Yet here we are, five months later and we’ve only met one of our neighbours. I don’t know what I thought. Maybe that it would be like a movie and neighbours would come and knock on our door with a welcome basket of muffins or cookies and introduce themselves. We’d invite them in for tea. The kids would play and we’d get to know each other. After that, we’d say hello and chat whenever we saw each other, have playdates and maybe even a neighbourhood bbq.
None of that has happened. So now I realize it’s up to me. But I’m not sure what to do. Do I bake up some goodies, gather up my family and knock on our neighbours doors and introduce ourselves? Have I passed the window of opportunity, is it too late now?
How did you meet your neighbours?
11 thoughts on “Meet the Neighbours?”
So glad to have a friendly and helpful neighbor, We have actually bonded once a week and our children plays together.
That’s so great, that’s what I want!
I do not think you have passed the window of opportunity. I like you idea of baked goodies. Go for it!
When I was little, I was really friendly with my neighbours. I’ve moved around a lot but it’s only been recently that we’ve gotten to the point where we’d feel comfortable knocking on a neighbour’s door to ask for something. We made friends with three sets within the first week. Going around with baked goods would probably be a good way to introduce yourself.
Sometimes in situations like this you have to make the first move, just knock on your neighbours door and introduce your self it will break the ice, alternatively knock on the door , introduce your srlf and ask if they can recommend a good dry cleaners or some thing as you are new to area and need to have a suit dry cleaned .It may be an excuse but it will break the ice and get you talking.
Reach out to your neighbors. It is never too late.
Sometimes, it is best to reach out to your neighbors and they will respond back…..it can be hard to do at first, but making that initial connection may make all the difference,…..
Awesome post! Thanks for sharing 🙂
My wife always makes cookies for new neighbors, but she’s the exception in the neighborhood.
I wish your wife was my neighbour 😉
Knock on the door and borrow some sugar! It’s nice to bring something, but it can be intimidating to others when you appear to have it “together” with perfect baking and might make relationship-building slower. If you really want to get to know them, you should be vulnerable and ask THEM for help! Go over with a sugar emergency, and then later you can bring some of the cookies you made with their sugar!
I like that, a sugar emergency!