When going back to work after my second child, I decided to work part-time so I could be home with the kids more. I do enjoy my job but this time around after maternity leave, I just didn’t want to be gone from the kids so much. And it’s been a great balance! But there are those mornings when I do have to go to work and unintentionally, the kids make me feel so guilty, and this morning was one of those times!
My three-year old woke up about 20 minutes before I was going to leave, so I went in his room to hug him and get him out of his room. When he found out it was a work day, he got so sad. And then next thing he said made me just want to stay home.
“I love my parents. And I want at least one of my parent’s to stay home everyday.”
Melted the heart and kicked that Mommy guilt into gear!
Since becoming a parent, I feel this guilt all the time and I always feel like I’m not doing enough. Talking to other moms, I feel better knowing that I am not the only one who feels like this and that it’s just the norm of being a mom. And deep down, I know it’s okay if I have to go to work, or if I need a haircut or if I need to take a five-minute break but it’s hard to erase the guilt.
I found couple of articles that address this very subject:
5 ways to zap mommy guilt
Defying mommy guilt
As a mom or parent, do you experience mommy guilt? How often and how do you deal with it?
Hi Salma,
This is for the first time that I came to your blog rather just communicating in instagram. As a mother, I have just 1 year of experience and I feel so guilty while going back to work. Other than monetary needs which my permanent IT job can fulfill, i have lost all my interest in job. I seriously feel like working from home. Hope we mothers can cope up with it. Very well written.
Thanks
Shilpi
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